I right now is in Mecklenburg and complaint-mood am, here the same time the next topic that excites me enormously. And with exciting
I do not mean that I just wrinkled his forehead. No, I could really freak when people like these.
"What does to people because they" certainly many are now wondering, "I have something to read?".
Do not worry about forgetting anything, the information follows the same. But to describe what kind of people we are talking, I get take a deep breath before I can get started. In a quiet
can head it is easier to write, or at least less irritable and aggressive.
we climb the best one with everyday examples. Situations that all will be folding back.
It tells of the back pain that one has, most recently, as it is stooping a nerve got stuck in the back.
Man not expected - or even if only slightly - pity and does not want to do is also important. It will only be a simple conversation, where we now sometimes speaks to us about the well-being.
But then develops into no traditional entertainment, but you get to hear the following comment: "Oh, who do you say that I also know, I constantly lately"
leave I now first uncommented stand, and we continue with Example Two:
You sit at home drinking coffee and telling his girlfriend with a view to smear the window that no matter what you try out right now, always this terrible strips after washing windows would remain.
What is expected now? Great Tips?
been wrong!
"I know, only me's still looks a lot worse."
we come to the last example - are all good things eventually three.
It is completely finished from the university (or from school or work) and impinges on the way home a girlfriend. Them as quickly as possible in a friendly way to get rid of, says to her that now would be an inopportune time to chat to, as it was really done completely after all the hours and still lots to do tasks had.
But instead of a sympathetic "See you then Days "or" I'll call you at the weekend then to "get to hear something like:
" Yeah, that's just me. This morning I did this and that [activities variable applications] made, then this and then I go there now and now and later at home I have to ... "blah blah blah
, a good five minutes later they had finally released again the mouth closed.
noticed what exactly entzürnt my mind? go What kind of people I belonging to the eggs?
Exactly! These pesky sort of "For-me-is-all-bad" person.
Dreadful !
What should I bring personally when I talk about something and submitted to get that my suffering compared to everything under it than I do?
me to feel this better?
it feels good when you hear that a not so bad off as others? Can we then delight in the misery of others?
it calms the pain? It reduces stress?
Or I can do it this way, solutions to my problems be found?
Well,'s would be nice.
brings nothing like me.
comments like these are ill-conceived, nasty and extremely selfish.
The party is in derogation of a conversation with themselves in the spotlight, most likely due to sympathy from.
also mean statements like this one: 'Do not act like that! Be glad you're so well off! "
Yes, great. Should we then be ever happy about any pain? Could be worse, or what?
That makes the current state of mind is not really better.
Kurzgesgat: There is no one any favors if you Instead of advice or sympathy rather puts himself into the picture. Perhaps even better listen and be there for each other, as only big play the Benachteiligeten.
That is to say not that you can seek inclusions are not his views and experience. Quite the opposite, because this could turn out to be quite helpful. But please not always with a tone like "Oh, stop complaining just for you. For me, anyway things are much worse."
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